Coping with Infertilityhoustonivf2015-08-14T21:26:37+00:00
Coping with Infertility
Each individual experiences infertility in her or his own unique and valid way. While no one can predict one person’s reaction to a diagnosis or treatment recommendation, many have similar reactions to this life-changing event.
Emotional/psychological experiences may include:
feelings of loss of control are common and sometimes uncomfortable;
the emotional roller coaster of hope and despair, either with each treatment or on a monthly basis;
feelings of failure and low self-esteem are normal; as are feeling of guilt, blame, shame and embarrassment;
the process erodes and consumes time and energy;
financial issues – loss of other dreams in exchange for treatment;
changes within your marriage – pull together or apart – infertility brings most couples closer together; but changes in intimacy are often associated with treatment regimens;
impact on employment and performance at work
feelings of injustice are reality based;
Suggestions for coping more effectively:
begin/continue treatment with an open mind and a positive attitude – never say never!
realize that you must live and work in the fertile world, and manage your relationships with family members and friends;
develop a stress management program – simplify!
Confide in select friends and family members;
Periodically reexamine your options:
consider joining a support group, no one understands your feelings better than others who have experienced infertility;
grieve your losses – there are many for some people;engage in individual or couples therapy;if your infertility is secondary, try to renew your relationship with your child;
be gentle with yourself; avoid uncomfortable social situations – holidays, baby showers, certain family gatherings; be “out of town”; buy gift certificates and mail them with your negative rsvp;
It is important to maintain the perspective that treatment is a means to an end, and to realize that you are very likely to become a parent someday soon.